If you were not focused on 'taking' things from around you in order to make yourself feel better, you wouldn't ever want to just ‘bang’ a girl. - you wouldn't look at girls as if they are ‘pheromone worthy'
... Releasing your sexual energy is like throwing out your resources if your not investing them in the right way. All men in this frame of mind have sex in order to feel pleasure - and in that pleasure, they further themselves from the deep intimate connection they could be having with themselves. Same with when they do drugs - they are doing it for pleasure and in the meanwhile detracting from themselves. Learn why pheromones are important.
Why does pleasure seeking cause one to detract from themselves?
Because they have infinite pleasure within them but when they seek it outside of them, they are validating the frame that they are nothing but a black void within because they just keep on searching for the next thing to take.
So, the whole premise to begin with - the whole frame that you're looking at girls with is causing you to feel rejected - because your saying that you're a black hole within yourself and when you can't get someone to fill it.. Well of course you'll be depressed because you think you're nothing inside without Pherazone. Learn why pheromones are omnipotent.
But you are everything inside, your inside is the source of life. If only you stop searching for stuff outside and you connect to your inside - then your inside will guide you in ways to become further connected to the love you have for yourself.
P.S. this ties in directly to Hydra's and Don's posts about human pheromones. - All speaking about the same aspect. (This is how I took their posts). Learn more at ekta-parishad.org/human-pheromones-to-increase-attraction/
Hydra is speaking about remaining within your beliefs and not feeling judged by others because you truly have no idea where they're coming from.
Don is saying have a purpose in your life - and that stems from living in an intimate connection with yourself. - You cannot feel this purpose unless you know that you're important, and you're not important unless you know what your passions are and your purpose in life.. Only way you can find those is by being intimately connected with yourself.
But how do I get to that point? Right now I do feel like that black hole, that I have nothing to offer, and while I have many positive qualities that girls "should" appreciate I feel like they don't. The rejection puts doubt into my mind and that already empty hole gets larger and larger.