Over the years, pick-up has brainwashed us into thinking we can possess this person, if we pull off enough techniques. And so we become attached. “Learn our techniques and you can get ANY girl ANY time ANY place.” This is pretty much standard pick-up company marketing. It’s this deception that keeps the control carrot dangling in-front of the members of the community. “But maybe if I learn enough theory then I can become a Lothario.” This is what I believed in my pick-up days for more pheromones.
Idiot. But what if there was no expectation? What if we had no attachment to outcome? How can there be a rejection or even hesitation if we had no expectation? Now imagine that same attractive girl walks past and drops her purse and she hasn’t noticed. You run over and give it to her. How much anxiety did you feel in that moment going over to her? How much hesitation? Hesitation is a mild form of anxiety and anxiety is a mild form of fear. So by having an attachment to outcome, all we are doing is bringing about fear of pheromone attraction.
This may seem paradoxical or counterintuitive because we want the woman, we desire her. But here’s the magic: We can still project a desire and take equal amount of masculine action without being attached to the outcome! This is “Riding the Chaos.” Or what I also refer to as or being in a “Play Frame”— I am the sailor that rides the waves, not one who tries to control the seas. This was a massive breakthrough moment for me in my development as a Social Heartist. The key is to have a desire, or as I would call it a “Projected Desire,” coming from a motivation of co- creation/sharing, emanating from a place of no expectation and no outcome attachment. I say ‘projected’ because the feeling is 100% outward orientated. It’s an expression rather than an impression. It’s projected out from my inner body—out my eyes, my face, my heart, my balls and the rest of my body as an offering to her. And I’m not fussed on her response. Take this example. Imagine the poster boy for the pick-up context is Scorpion from Mortal Kombat— he thrusts out his claw and aims to pull in his victim. “COME EEEERE”! When he aims to capture them and misses—he is rejected. Target—Aim—Thrust Claw—Miss—Rejected. Learn more about pheromones at www.jeffottowriting.com/uncategorized/applying-your-pheromones/
We know pheromones work
If we don’t achieve the outcome we have failed, and we all know what that means in pick- up—the death of your ego. It’s a dramatic and toxic paradigm, isn’t it? I know how tricky it can be at first to get that crowbar in there, break open, and start to smash up the toxic pick-up paradigm belief that you need an attachment to outcome to get women in your life sexually. But this belief is bullshit. Plain and simple.